Wednesday, April 10, 2013

I think I am meant to remain friendless.....

I don't know what I am doing wrong TBH in making friends.

I either let people take advantage of me and then when they don't want me anymore or I am not fun to push around, they drop me to the curb OR I stick up for myself and they still take advantage of me and then drop me to the curb.

I made friends with a mum at school. Her twin is in Declans class and I want my kids to have friends and kids over to play and go to kids houses to play.

Somehow after taking advantage of my nice nature and then me saying no, she got really cold and stopped texting. It was uncomfortable going to her house and she stopped offering me a coffee so I got up and left and haven't been back unless my boys want to play with her boys.

I would drive to her place in the morning and walk the boys to school with her and her boys.
I would take her to town and window shop while she spent money lol
I would go to her house everyday and have a cuppa and she would take what she could and never return the favour.

BUT she is not the only one to do all of this. She is just the latest to do all of this.

I don't want to stop the boys from being friends so when I pick up my kids from school on Wed and Fri, I take them around (if she is in a good mood) to play.

The thing that annoys me the most is that she has the problem with me and I have no idea what I have done wrong. Yet she texted me saying "Why do you snob me and give me the cold shoulder at times and then want to come around on Wed and Fri?"
Well I am guessing I have done something wrong, because she hasn't texted back after my reply and now I am getting pissy.

People don't confront each other anymore.
It is all done via email, FaceBook, text messaging etc. As long as you don't have to talk face to face or on the phone (like we used to in dinosaur times), we can all do what we like?

I stand with my older post last year....Women are nasty! I am yet to find a genuine female who just wants to be friends and not take advantage of the other person or be a complete back stabbing mole.

This is todays is very sad the way things are and have always been for some people.


  1. Vikki, I'm visiting from the UBC. Darn--It sounds like you're having a bad run of luck with friends. But you are really onto something with wanting people to talk in person; texting and such are great, but limited compared to talking in person. If this one woman thinks you are being uneven in your response to her, can you ask her in person what she means? If that doesn't work, I believe there are better friends for you (and your kids?) out there. Keep looking! All the best--Kebba

  2. It sounds like you're going through a rough patch, Vikki. I'm sending you love!

  3. Replies
    1. pfft of course you just have to sell up and move ;)

    2. Lol, somehow I don't think hubby work be able to find suitable work over there lol.

  4. Hey Vikki, Although I am not a mom, I am a husband and have seen this happen with my wife from time to time in her relationships as well with my young daughter. Not quite sure what is happening with people. People just need to step up and deal with stuff so that they can move on with their lives. It is way to short to be worried about what others maybe thinking, doing, or saying. Just call them or meet them face to face to deal with the stuff that needs to be taken care of. Keep your chin up high and your dreams alive. Blessings.